Is it True That Becoming a Parent Makes Us Miserable?

Julie Shenkman
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Becoming a parent is one of life's most extraordinary experiences. It is also extraordinarily difficult and can often lead to feelings of unhappiness and dissatisfaction, prompting many new parents to have only one child. A study published in the journal Demography finds that more than 70 percent of new parents report a decrease in happiness after the birth of their first child; researchers Rachel Margolis and Mikko Myrskyla want to know why.

More than 15 million American families have only one child, a number that represents a dramatic increase in recent years. There are many possible reasons as to why more new parents are stopping at one, including the fact that many women are becoming more career-focused. While there are a number of demographic and social factors that influence parents' decisions on raising more children, Margolis and Myrskyla say that no studies have looked into how the very experience of becoming a first-time parent affects parents' desire for more children.

"The experience of the transition to parenthood will inform new parents' decisions about whether to have another child," say the researchers. Their theory explains that if the transition to parenthood is overall a positive and relatively easy experience, new parents are likely to want to give it another go. Consequently, if the transition to parenthood is rife with setbacks and difficulties, parents are much more likely to stop at one child.

To test this theory, the researchers gathered data from 2,301 parents from the German Socio-Economic Panel Study from 1984 to 2010. Each year, study participants were asked to rate their happiness levels on a scale of zero to 10 as well as answer questions about childbirth, employment and relationships. The researchers used the responses from two years prior to childbirth and up to one year after childbirth to form their conclusion.

Compared with two years before childbirth, more than 70 percent of parents reported an average 1.4 point drop in happiness, and more than a third reported at least a two-point drop. Overall, more than 70 percent of new parents experienced a decline in general well-being after their first child was born. These parents were less likely to have a second child; 58 percent of parents who reported decreased happiness had a second child within 10 years, compared to 66 percent of parents whose happiness did not decrease.

The parents who were most likely to be influenced by their happiness levels were those age 30 and older and those with more than 12 years of education. Myrskyla says this may be because these parents are more likely to be in competitive professional environments, making it harder to balance family and work life.

Admittedly, many possible underlying factors were not taken into consideration for this study. These factors include relationship stress, level of exhaustion during the first year of parenthood and difficulty of childbirth. Regardless, the researchers suggest that those who are interested in low fertility rates consider how the mental and emotional state of new parents can directly impact future fertility rates.


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  • Leonore M.
    Leonore M.

    Becoming a Parent is a miracle! It's a out of this world experience. ..you take care of that life inside of you and take care of everything around you that evolves your baby and yourself for the benefit of the life you are nourishing. You become a fountain of life that makes what's inside of you growth healthy and Loving for the rest of your life. You rip what you sow.

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